My girlfriend keeps adding stuff to the grocery list after I'm already at the store.
By @vincesorta · Relationships
Every single time I go shopping, I ask her if she needs anything, she says no, and then the texts start rolling in when I'm in the checkout line. It's not a huge deal, but it happens every time and it's starting to get on my nerves.
The full story
I do the grocery shopping on Sundays. Before I leave, I hold up the list and ask my girlfriend if there's anything else she wants me to grab. The answer is always 'Nope, I think that's everything.' So I go. Then, like clockwork, I'll be halfway through the store and my phone will buzz. 'Ooh can you get that coffee creamer I like?' An hour later, I'm literally putting stuff on the belt and it buzzes again. 'Forgot we need paper towels.' Sometimes she'll send a third or fourth text for one or two little things while I'm waiting in a long line. Last weekend I was already paying when she texted asking for avocados. I just ignored it. I got home and she was annoyed that I didn't get them. I told her she needs to tell me *before* I go, not send me on a scavenger hunt while I'm there. She thinks I'm being a jerk over something small and that it's not a big deal for me to just run back to an aisle. It's the principle of it for me. I made a plan, I asked her, and she's changing it last minute every single week. It's just disrespectful of my time.
How people voted
- Side A — 20% (25 votes)
- Both — 46% (58 votes)
- Side B — 34% (43 votes)
Readers say “Both” (46%) — 126 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@kindathough — Why doesn't she just use a grocery app to add things to a shared list during the week?
@ashlately — lol
@alsosame — Honey, that's not just about the avocados. It's about feeling like your time and effort aren't respected. You did the right thing by trying to talk about it.
@mehkay — Next time she asks you to pick up food on your way home just 'forget' it. See how she likes it.
@vincemm — Classic weaponized incompetence, she knows exactly what she's doing and when you'll be in the checkout line.
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