Why does everyone feel entitled to a free slice of my birthday cake?
By @jettsorta · Friends
I'm having a small birthday dinner with 6 friends. To save money, I was just going to buy myself a single fancy slice of cake, but my friends are acting like I'm supposed to provide a full cake for everyone.
The full story
It's my birthday next week. I'm not doing a big party, just a dinner at a restaurant with my 6 closest friends. I was planning on just ordering a single nice slice of whatever cake the restaurant has for myself when the check comes. A few friends have been asking what kind of cake I'm getting, and when I explained I was just getting a slice for me, they got quiet. One of them said "oh, so you're not getting a cake for the table?" It feels like I'm now expected to spend an extra $50 on a cake I didn't even want just so everyone else can have a free dessert. Am I obligated to do that?
How people voted
- OP Is Right — 47% (17 votes)
- Both Messy — 28% (10 votes)
- OP Is Wrong — 25% (9 votes)
Readers say “OP Is Right” (47%) — 36 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@reed — It's YOUR birthday, they should be buying YOU a cake.
@danalately — Can't they just order their own dessert if they want some?
@umaok2 — My friend did this for his 30th and just bought himself a single fancy cocktail that the rest of us watched him drink lol
@violetmaybe — I feel like if you're inviting people to celebrate your birthday, providing cake is part of the deal...
@karatbh — bruh
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