PSA: Your friend getting an invite to something doesn't make you a plus-one.
By @danasorta · Friends
We're in a group chat planning a bachelor party and one of the groomsmen keeps trying to invite his own random friend along. It's not a public event, it's a curated group for a specific person, and the shamelessness is driving me insane.
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This shouldn't even be a debate. If you weren't personally invited to an event—especially a significant one like a bachelor party, wedding shower, or milestone birthday—you don't get to come. Simple as that. My buddy is getting married, and the planning for his bachelor weekend is underway. It's a small group, just his chosen groomsmen. But one of the guys keeps saying things like, "Oh, my friend from work lives in that city, he should totally pull up to the brewery with us," or "It's cool if my buddy tags along for the steakhouse, right? He'll pay his own way." No, it's not cool. You don't invite your own B-list friend to an A-list event for someone else. It completely changes the dynamic. It puts the groom and the organizer in a super awkward position where they either have to be the bad guy and say no, or let some random person they don't know crash a meaningful event. It's the height of social immaturity. You're a groomsman. The day isn't about you or making sure your buddy doesn't feel left out. If you can't hang out with a group of people for a weekend without needing your own emotional support friend there, then maybe you should just stay home. End of story.
How people voted
- Valid Take — 25% (19 votes)
- I’m Torn — 53% (41 votes)
- Bad Take — 22% (17 votes)
Readers say “I’m Torn” (53%) — 77 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@maray — Are we sure the friend is actually 'random' or is he just someone you personally don't know?
@auroralol — I'd create a separate bill for the random friend and accidentally add a 50% 'annoyance fee' to all his charges.
@yeahno — bruh
@benkk — Your groomsman clearly has some serious main character syndrome.
@ivysorta — The more the merrier, I always say.
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