My friend thinks 'girls night' is a BYOB event (Bring Your Own Boyfriend).
By @laneactually · Friends
She's great, but ever since she got a new boyfriend, he's become an uninvited guest at every single friend gathering. It's changing the whole dynamic and we don't know how to tell her.
The full story
We have a pretty solid friend group and once or twice a month we'll do a dedicated 'girls night'—usually just low-key junk food and complaining about our lives. But for the past few months, my one friend has started bringing her boyfriend to everything. It’s never announced, he just… appears with her. The invite will literally say 'ladies night!!' and she'll show up with him in tow. The vibe immediately changes from us being able to vent freely to everyone being polite and filtered. We love her, but we don't know him like that. So now we're all just sitting there making awkward small talk instead of having our usual catch-up. Should we just start a second group chat without her?
How people voted
- Totally Cooked — 28% (81 votes)
- It’s Complicated — 42% (123 votes)
- You’re Fine — 30% (86 votes)
Readers say “It’s Complicated” (42%) — 290 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@ivyish — You either tell her to her face or you just accept the new guy is part of the group now.
@avamaybe — I feel like a simple 'hey, can this one be just us girls?' would solve this instantly.
@sashayy — Soft.
@forrealsies — My friend in college did this so we just started calling our hangouts 'book club' and her bf stopped coming.
@scarlettmm — lmaooo
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