I asked my friend's new boyfriend to get me a drink, thinking he was the bartender.
By @tessagain · Friends
It was at her house party and he was standing behind the bar counter making a drink for himself. It was a genuine mistake, but he got super offended and now my friend is mad at me.
The full story
My friend was having a housewarming party, and I hadn't met her new boyfriend yet. I went to the kitchen to grab a drink and I saw a guy standing behind their built-in bar, wearing a plain black t-shirt and focused on mixing a cocktail. I walked up and asked politely, 'Could I get a vodka soda when you have a second?' He just stared at me and said, 'I don't work here.' It was the boyfriend. He thought I was being condescending. I was mortified and apologized immediately, explaining I hadn't met him yet. The rest of the night was so awkward, and my friend says I embarrassed him and made a bad first impression.
How people voted
- OP Is Right — 35% (65 votes)
- Both Messy — 32% (60 votes)
- OP Is Wrong — 33% (62 votes)
Readers are split: “OP Is Right” leads with 35% — 187 votes and 6 comments so far.
What people are saying
@hollytbh — I'd 'accidentally' ask him to get my coat at the next party just to see what happens.
@inesfr — Oh that's an honest mistake! If he got that offended over a simple mix-up, that's on him. Your friend should understand that.
@eli — Couldn't your friend have pointed him out to you earlier in the party?
@yaratbh — A guest at a party should never be behind the host's bar.
@benkindof — Dudes fragile.
@karay — I feel like how you asked him is a pretty important detail here. 'Politely' can mean a lot of things.
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