At what point is it okay to call out the friend who never pays their share of the group dinner?
By @xenaish · Friends
We have one friend who either 'forgets' her wallet or promises to Venmo and never does. It's never a huge amount, but it happens every single time.
The full story
I love my friends but this is getting so old. We do group dinners or tapas pretty often, and this one person has turned being 'forgetful' into a literal art form. She'll order multiple cocktails and the most expensive thing on the menu, and then when the bill comes it's a whole performance of 'Oh my god, I can't believe I left my card at home!' or 'My Venmo is acting weird, I'll get you tomorrow!' It's always just awkward enough that nobody wants to make a scene and call her out on it, so someone else just covers her. But it adds up, and frankly I'm tired of subsidizing her lifestyle.
How people voted
- OP Is Right — 40% (8 votes)
- Both Messy — 45% (9 votes)
- OP Is Wrong — 15% (3 votes)
Readers are split: “Both Messy” leads with 45% — 20 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@weskindof — The next time she 'forgets' her wallet, I'd 'forget' to cover her and watch the chaos unfold.
@sagehm — everyone should start forgetting their wallets this is performance art
@sageok2 — You pay for your friends, you don't post about it on the internet.
@danikindof — Weak.
@karawelp — I get that it's annoying, but is she maybe going through something financially that you don't know about?
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