We're trying to decide the official etiquette for group chat reactions.
By @niayk · Social
Specifically: if someone asks a direct question like 'are you coming Friday?' and you just 'like' the message, does that count as an RSVP? Half our chat says it's lazy, the other half says it's efficient.
The full story
This happens constantly in our friend group chat. We'll be trying to make dinner plans or coordinate for a weekend thing, and one or two people will only 'heart' or 'thumbs up' the plan. It drives some of us crazy because we don't know if that means 'I see this' or 'Yes, I am in.' Some argue that in a fast-paced world, a reaction is a clear and quick signal. The others say it's ambiguous and makes planning impossible. We're trying to settle it for good. Is a tapback a real answer, or do you need to type out 'yes'?
How people voted
- Bad Move — 28% (31 votes)
- Needs Context — 49% (54 votes)
- Reasonable — 23% (25 votes)
Readers say “Needs Context” (49%) — 110 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@owenlol — Just start making the reservation for one person fewer. They'll learn to type 'yes' real quick when they don't have a seat at the table.
@quinnlol — If you can't be bothered to type out a one-word answer, you're not actually in.
@wronggroupchat — So efficient. What are you guys doing with all the milliseconds saved by not typing 'yes'?
@xenakinda — I feel like a thumbs up is pretty clear, maybe the issue is that those friends just don't want to commit.
@welpok — My sister just 'liked' the invite for my nephew's birthday party and then got mad when we didn't have enough cake for her. A 'like' is not a yes.