My boyfriend's mom still cleans his apartment when she visits.
By @judemaybe · Relationships
We've been dating for two years, and I'm starting to feel like she thinks I'm not doing a good enough job. they says it's just how she shows she cares, but it feels quietly judgmental.
The full story
His mom comes into town every couple of months and she'll just start… cleaning. Not like, tidying up a little. I mean deep cleaning. She'll rearrange the pantry, scrub the baseboards, everything. He's 28. It's so awkward when I'm there. I don't know if I'm supposed to help her or just sit there while she cleans my boyfriend's home. they says it's not a big deal and I should just let her, but it makes me so uncomfortable.
How people voted
- On their side — 28% (13 votes)
- Both sides — 34% (16 votes)
- Other side — 38% (18 votes)
Readers are split: “Other side” leads with 38% — 47 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@derekkk — Your boyfriend is almost 30 and his mom still cleans his house? No, you're not overreacting.
@oopsie — The only problem here is that she's not cleaning your apartment.
@danalately — that's not a red flag it's a whole parade
@sashaee — My mother-in-law does the same thing. I just pour myself a glass of wine and watch.
@ezra — It's a control thing and he's letting it happen.
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