My boyfriend's friends Venmo-request me for gas money when he drives them.
By @ellieliterally · Money
My boyfriend (26M) is the designated driver for his friend group. Last weekend, he drove them to a concert about an hour away. The next morning, I (25F) woke up to three separate $15 Venmo requests from his friends for 'gas and tolls'.
The full story
This has happened three times now. My boyfriend and his friends have a system where they all pitch in for gas and tolls whenever one of them drives for a group thing, which is totally normal. But my boyfriend's car is technically mine—it's in my name, I make the payments, I pay the insurance. We live together so we share it, which I'm fine with. But here's the thing. His friends all know this. The first time it happened, I was confused and just paid it. The second time, I asked my boyfriend about it, and he was like, 'Oh yeah, I gave them your Venmo, it's just easier so I don't have to send it to you.' I told him that was weird and that HE should be the one getting the money since he was the one driving and it's his friends. He just laughed and said I was being dramatic. This time, the concert was an hour away, so the requests were for $15 each. It feels so weird and transactional. They're his friends, not mine. I feel like I'm their a rideshare driver's accountant or something. I told my boyfriend I'm not paying the requests and he needs to tell his friends to cancel them and request him instead. Now he's annoyed and saying I'm making a huge deal out of nothing and making things awkward in his friend group.
How people voted
- OP Is Right — 28% (40 votes)
- Both Messy — 37% (53 votes)
- OP Is Wrong — 35% (50 votes)
Readers are split: “Both Messy” leads with 37% — 143 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@sagehm — Oh honey, he's just being lazy and making you the bad guy. Stick to your guns on this one.
@sage — A man should handle financial matters with his own friends.
@danaish — It's so weird when people do this, my bf's mom once requested me for a single Ziploc bag she gave me for leftovers lol.
@inesish — I'd send them all a Venmo request for the monthly car payment and insurance bill.
@zaneforsure — Weak.
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