Destination weddings are a selfish cash grab.
By @gusyy · Hot Takes
My best friend is getting married in Cancun and expects everyone to drop $3k to be there. I said I'm not going and now I’m the bad guy.
The full story
My friend of 10 years is getting married. She knows I work a trade job, I don't have a ton of extra cash. She sent out the invites to a resort that's $500 a night, 3-night minimum, not even counting flights. I told her flat out I can't afford a $3,000 vacation for her wedding. Now she's giving me the silent treatment and our other friends say I should just put it on a credit card to 'be supportive.' Am I supposed to go into debt for a party? It feels messed up to ask your friends to do that.
How people voted
- Facts — 29% (37 votes)
- Depends — 47% (60 votes)
- No Way — 24% (31 votes)
Readers say “Depends” (47%) — 128 votes and 5 comments so far.
What people are saying
@reeseish — Why isn't she offering to help you with the cost if your presence is so important to her?
@reeseyy — You are absolutely not the bad guy. A wedding invitation is not a bill.
@brynnhm — This is classic financial manipulation and she's testing your loyalty. Not a friend.
@kindathough — Soft.
@codyok2 — My own sister did this. I watched the livestream from my couch with a beer. No regrets.
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